I would love to be able to proclaim, that my sexual encounters have, for the most part been conscious loving, Tantric and rewarding. But as I mentioned last week, that is not my story. And I’ve realised (with a weird kind of relief) that I am not alone.
Today I am celebrating. Last weekend I can truly confirm, the tools in Self:Cervix actually work. And you might be thinking, "well I hope they work since I'm investing in this". But the truth is when you're exploring, pioneering and finding your own way, you just don't know where it's all going.
When you start exploring your internal world for pleasure or therapeutics, it can be confusing to know which oil or lubricant to use, so we thought we’d share a list of the most commonly used oils as well as personal lubricants to help you make an informed decision.
I have always had a nerdy interest in sex. (I'm the one carrying a speculum in my handbag.) After healing myself from the bonds of shame in my late 20’s, I went on a mission to learn everything I could. I was obsessed (like the rest of the world) for better or worse. Here are three things I've learnt:
I want to expand my consciousness through orgasm. Not just any kind of orgasm - the kind that causes my sense of ‘me' to disappear into light. Just writing that makes me laugh on the inside. I could have chosen to want something a little bit easier, but I’m fascinated by the possibility.
And it goes beyond simply feeling the tiny surface of your fingertips touching another. It sinks into the depths of feeling. You notice your body’s internal world and pick up on theirs.
The first time it happened for me ... I sat quite still with my finger on my cervix for about 20 minutes and then slowly the sensations grew into a deep full body throb, my sense of physical limits appeared to dissolve and expand.